Some People Never Pay Attention to Their Experiences

by | Jul 27, 2018 | Formation, Reflections

Some People Never Pay Attention to Their Experiences

When I was a young priest during a time of social and ecclesial upheavals not unlike our own there was a phrase that got to me. “I’ve had 40 years of experience…” I most frequently heard it as a put down of some new social and ecclesial currents. A variation of this is that “we’ve always done it this way!”

It took me a while to figure out that this older priest did not have 40 years of experience. Rather he had one year of experience repeated 40 times. It was an experience he never paid attention to. In a sense, I have been reacting to this for over 50 years. So often people see only threats and problems, rarely opportunities.

In fact, I recently heard of a bishop who held a “listening session” in preparation for the world Synod of Youth. Instead of listening to his assembled youth ministers he spent the time telling them what he wanted them to do.

Thank God St. Vincent Paid Attention to His Experiences

Vincent paid attention to his experiences. Vincent saw the force for mercy in a disorganized effort to meet a pressing need. He paid attention to it… and organized it.

J. Patrick Murphy, in his thumbnail reflections on the life of Vincent, writes…

“In a second famous sermon so many people were motivated to take food and medicines to a poor family they created a veritable parade on the road to their home. Vincent took one look and immediately realized there was great charity but it was poorly organized. His greatest gift to serving the poor was his ability to organize the effort­– the first time in the history of the world.

Lesson: Pay attention to your experiences; you may find your great contribution.”

Vincent paid attention to his experiences. He looked at problems and found the opening for a new approach to service. He asked a question. “Is there something more I can do?” Perhaps, more importantly, he asked: “Is there something more we can do?” These questions became the pattern for his life.

He realized that God was speaking to him through tragic human situations:

  • the miserable lot of the country poor,
  • the desire of women to serve in ways previously closed to them,
  • the abysmal education of the clergy,
  • the abandoning of infants on the streets of Paris,
  • the ravaging wars in the provinces.
  • etc.

In each of these situations, he looked for and discovered new ways of serving. He was able to do this because he was an active contemplative. He stepped back from daily details and became one of the most creative forces of his time.

Paying attention to our own experiences

How can we learn to see opportunity in threats and problems?

We need to be “mystics of charity”, a concept we have recently been rediscovering. We need to be people who pray from the headlines of our news media. As we pray we may learn to listen to our inner child asking “why”. We all passed through the “why” stage of growth. It is too bad we seem to have “outgrown” it.

Being a mystic of charity means recovering our ability to wonder in the context of a vision of the kingdom.

Listening sessions for our own lives

  • How often do we talk at God rather than look with God’s eyes?
  • Am I willing to look at different ways of doing things?